I know a young colleague these days in Shanghai. He is about 27 years old. After talking with him, I found that he has a very peaceful heart. He never put the disturbing matters of work, house and life on his shoulder which most of us worry about everyday. He doesn’t care at all. He will not struggle to buy a house if he is in lack of money. And his attitude about job is just honesty and seriousness. He has no girl friend and he said he doesn’t need one. He always read many kinds of novels online in his spare time. And he refuses seriously to study English. He is a little conservative and he told me that the best place in his mind is his hometown forever.
During lunch time, I asked him that how he would deal with his marriage? He told me that he would marry a city girl if he has enough money, and if he doesn’t, he would like to marry a country girl. And then I asked him about his children? I meant we should think about how to give our children a better life. But he told me that there is no need to think about it, and he was from poor countryside and so may be his children. After hearing about this, I didn’t know what to say for a moment! I think that his attitude towards these things is called escape. He will escape further and further while he faces harder and harder situations until there’s no way for escape any more. And he admits this point.
But then, I found that it is not very accurate to use escape for him. His escape is on surface, but actually he has no desire for something in his deep heart. He has no wish to buy house in ShenZhen. He has no wish to climb up the corporate ladder. And he has no wish to be in love. He doesn’t like English, so he just gets rid of it. It seems that he has no interests in so many things that he always sinks in his own mind world to lead a casual life.
The so called strugglers in big cites are grown up to be the same. What we think, what we dream about, what we like, what we buy and eat, what our hobbies, what our characteristics, and so on and forth, are all toward to all the same. We are not pure us any more. We are washed to be social products just since we were born. However much ego we keep in our deep soul, it is not important any more.
This colleague of mine maybe a guy who makes no efforts to seek progress, drifts along day by day in someone’s perspective. He must not be catalogued to a good class. But, look at us on the other hand, most of us try to catch ourselves on remains in our destroyed heart and ourselves are more and more small, more and more unimportant. But he always sticks on his heart land to choose completely according to his own soul on his life path. A beautiful scene only belongs to him!
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