My wife gave me a link which is a hot article throughout the internet. The article was wrote by an English nurse. She concluded out the top 5 regrets of life from many of her dying patients. I list the 5 sentences below in blue (I do not get the original English version). And the other words are all comments by myself.
The expectations of our lives are different depending on different life phases. What do you want? This is a question which can not be fully answered by many people during their whole life periods. We should not take other people's expectations as our ways of life. That is to only make other people satisfied, and then we get satisfaction through other people's praises. It's all about our little vanity. The more the vanity we have, the less independence we get. Self-improvement is not the same with doing everything well. To do everything well is just like that you are trying to fight with people every moments. Self-improvement is the way of chasing your heart still. We should be ourselves, should not try to become anyone else. We should try to live in our own way, even though the ways are different from time to time. We should create, protect and follow our inner heartbeat, and prevent it from any breaking.
Dying people say this may be because of the higher expectation of results. They think that their efforts are not align with what they get. But, if do not hard working, how could we make our family's living. If do not try our best, how could we know the best result we can get. The regret I can image if people do not hard working is that I hope I can do it better and then the result is ... The key of this point is that keep good health and easy life while hard working. How to achieve it, this is the big question.
I do not understand. I think this is the same point with the first regret.
I had a lot of friends. I lost contact with most of them. I am trying to figure out whether I regret it or not.
I can not understand too. It looks like that many people do not have the ability to live a happy life. They complain their unhappy life at last. I think it's the same with the first regret.
Conclusion. When I am going to die, I do not think I will have the top 5 regrets above. I will maybe regret that I, finally, can not achieve my goal and heart balance. If my boy understand his father's goal and he also have the ability to keep going on this way, I will be without regrets. Of course, my goal may be changed. The lucks in the future are based on what you are doing right now.
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